Relationship and low moods

We all have different kinds of thoughts throughout the day. That is how we human beings are designed. That means that we will have low mood thoughts which will flood our minds from time to time.

When we get into low mood thoughts, we get very insecure. And everyone has their way of acting out in low moods. Some scream, get angry … others withdraw, do not talk, isolate themselves. As George Pransky puts it in his book, “The Relationship handbook” we, kind of wear an armour when we are insecure and we will act it out.

Now, if your partner/ child/ parent is acting out their low moods and you take it personally, you will get yourself into low moods as well.. meaning if they are in low moods and they shout or withdraw and you take it personally… she is like this only, always shouts at “me”… he is like that only, never openly talks with “me”…. then the situation becomes worse.

It is not because of you, its just that they are in low moods and they are acting it out. Yes, they are shouting at you, they might be saying bad things about you, they might be being indifferent with you, but still its not about you. Its about the mood they are in. And they cannot help it. Low mood thoughts distort our vision, our perspective and does not let us see others clearly.

When their mood settles, which it will, because that is how universe has designed us, they will be their normal self again. But if you try to coax them out of their bad mood, it is not going to work.

Instead, if you can give them compassion by understanding that they are in low moods and it must be difficult for them, but they will become ok in some time, then this good energy of yours will help them to come out of their low moods sooner.